There are a lot of misogynistic, toxic men out there.
Most of them I find who are the most misogynistic and toxic usually belong to what I like to call the “Faces For Radio Club”.
Guys that when you first look at them you automatically clock them as average looking at best. They usually have some of the biggest and yet most fragile ego’s I have ever seen. The bigger male shit-talkers usually have a glass jaw. A woman turns him down and he responds “Fuck you, you’re ugly anyway. I was just doing you a favor.”
The guys who hear “locker room talk” and either participate in it because they’re too scared to check their guy friends on their behavior and don’t stand up to them or don’t participate in it and chose to stay silent.
Silence hides a multitude of sins.
One day I was looking at photos on Machine Gun Kelly’s Instagram while he was at a George Floyd protest. He was holding a sign that said “silence is betrayal”.
That saying doesn’t belong to just to black people.
It belongs to all women as well.
Whenever a woman is sexually assaulted or raped by a man and a man asks “Why didn’t you report it? Don’t you know you’re just letting him get away with it? He’s going to do that to some other female, you know that right?”
I say to that question “Fuck off”.
Where were the guys who knew that their guy friend had rape in mind before the woman ever came to the party and you chose to do nothing about it? Where were the upstanding gentlemen who watched their guy friend peer pressure a female into drinking to get drunk and said nothing?
It is always a pattern of men who should have said something and chose not to.
Don’t brush a woman off if she calls you a misogynistic pig because your silence gave them the right to call you that.
Just like she has the right to categorize you into the “Faces for Radio Club”, because guys who are a part of that club are usually the guys who will do anything to try to coerce a woman into sleeping with them. The guys who buy a woman a drink at the bar and when she does not reciprocate with sex they ignore for the rest of the night because that girl was a waste of his time.
If anything, y’all are a waste of MY fucking time.
The next time you ever hear that “silence is betrayal”, get it into your head that it is not just about hate crimes that are committed to a person of color. This has pertained to woman far, far beyond any hate crime toward anybody for their skin color.
Women are still used as currency to this very day.
That is why I am really sick of people who try to make everything about race when they really should be making it about sexism and misogyny.
Be an ally. Don’t be a member of the “Faces For Radio” club.